I have a simple fill in the blank question that I want you to honestly answer.

“In my life I am most committed to _________.”

What goes in that blank is crucial for a many reasons but the biggest one I can think of is this: it drives everything we do and also tells us what we will chose to let suffer.

For example:

  • If we are most committed to our job, our family will (at times) suffer when we stay late to work, check emails in the evenings, and get generally ‘brought down’ by things at the office that bleed into the house.
  • If we are most committed to ourselves, we are willing to sacrifice others to achieve our own happiness.
  • If we are most committed to our kids, marriages can suffer as spouses feel secondary.
  • If we are most committed to our kids’ happiness, our kids’ toughness and ability to persevere will suffer.
  • If we are committed to our kids’ education, their spiritual formation might be stunted.
  • If we are most committed to our kids’ morality, they might never learn the act of repentance if they keep all their faults to themselves.
  • If we are most committed to family, faith can suffer.

So I ask again, “What are you most committed to?”

When we take the advice of the apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 15, everything else goes right. Paul tells us what is of first importance.

3 For I delivered to you as of first importance what I also received: that Christ died for our sins in accordance with the Scriptures, 4 that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day in accordance with the Scriptures,…

If you are most committed to the person of Jesus Christ, everything falls into place. We parent biblically and better, we put education and sports in their proper perspectives. Morality is not the goal but an overflow of a life lived in surrender to Christ. A life that focuses on the cross changes everything.

Fast forward with me to your funeral, and your kids are giving your eulogy. They start out their moment by saying “to my mom/dad, the most important to him/her was ________”.

What do you hope they say?

Jim has been working with families in camping and church ministries for over twenty years. He has a master’s degree in Biblical Studies and a Doctorate of Ministry from Dallas Theological Seminary. He has ghost written small group curriculum for Matt Chandler, Tommy Nelson, and Mark Driscoll and is the lead pastor at Rockland Community Church in the hideously grotesque town nestled at the foot of the disgusting Rocky Mountains called Golden, Colorado. (He says that even the wild caribou and buffalo that frolic freely about his property think it’s gross there—they tell him as much while they ice skate on the frozen lake.)

Most importantly, however, Jim is a husband and father of three with a deep desire to help kids hear the truth of the gospel message.

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